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Inspired, amazed, in awe, excited, proud, grateful, blessed and totally turned on!

That’s how I felt this past week when Paul showed me the content that he is teaching next week at the Relationship Breakthrough Retreat on Mature Masculine Presence!

It’s just inspiring to listen to a man so rooted in his Mature Masculine Presence speak about what it means to be rooted, immovable, confident and decisive. To lead from his heart, act with honor and integrity, take action because it’s the right thing to do and ALWAYS, ALWAYS be in service to his woman!

As Paul teaches it, a man who is connected to his masculine presence knows who he is, knows what he wants, and nothing will get in his way of getting to that outcome. I love to listen to him teach the difference between the immature and mature masculine!

We’ve all run into the immature masculine, that’s a confident, rooted and decisive man connected to his masculine energy and will let nothing get in his way of getting to his outcome, but it’s HIS outcome. He is acting from his ego, selfishly for his own gain, in spite of others, in spite of his woman. Not doing what is best for her, but using whomever he needs to in order to meet his own needs. YUCK.

Whereas the Mature Masculine understands his woman deeply. He can reach into her heart and feel what she needs and wants. His purpose is to serve, protect and provide for her. And doing all three of those things fills him up, gives him the win, fulfills his purpose!

So many women come to me who desperately want their man to step up in his mature masculine and come from this place for them!

I will tell you, it is AMAZING to be the woman Paul Martino lives to serve. There’s no question! And if you know me at all, you know I am the most grateful little girl on the planet!!!

Two key points I will share with you.

One, as Paul tells his story, many years ago, Paul was completely disconnected from his masculine presence. It was very much there, under the surface, but he was shoving it down and disconnecting from it intentionally because in his youth he was repeatedly told to keep his INTENSITY in check.

It was in his adult life that he cultivated his masculine energy into the mature masculine presence that he effortlessly lives in today! Paul believes that all men who have a masculine core, have masculine energy inside, they might not be connected to it right now, but it can be TAUGHT!

Two, I will say that when I was living in my masculine, I was not creating the environment for Paul to connect to his masculine to serve, protect and provide for me.

Many years ago, I was serving, protecting and providing ALL for myself. He wasn’t really NEEDED in that way when he came into my life. Thank G-d that changed!

Ladies, it’s a vulnerable act and one you may not be ready for, but you must surrender to his serving, protecting, and providing if you want him to step up and connect to his masculine.

You can take baby steps, it doesn’t have to be all or nothing.

You can lean into it, cultivate your feminine radiance in ways that feel authentic and comfortable but a bit of a stretch at first. Take baby steps into it.

On Day Two of the Relationship Breakthrough Retreat, Paul and I spend the entire afternoon teaching, demonstrating, and giving breakthrough experiences to the attendees ….all in Masculine and Feminine energy!

Oh my gosh the experiences we have planned!!! So excited!!!

Sending love,

Stacey

 

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So a long time ago I realized that, for ME, “professional” is a BAD word!

Someone would say something like “oh yeah, that’s very professional, great work.” And I would get all scrunchy and upset. Or worse, someone would say “you look nice ….very professional.” UUUUUUUGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHH!

Like nails on a chalkboard!

I know people have the best of intention….but I also know that I would get triggered by that “bad word” big time!

I realized that FOR ME, somewhere along my journey through corporate suits and “bullshit,” the word “professional” got linked to things like

  • Not being who you really are to please people around you
  • Positioning
  • Fake, phony
  • Buttoned up and withholding
  • False pretense

Since I am ANTI all of that crap, “professional” became a BAAAADDDD word to me! I only value being real, raw and honest!

Recently, I had three experiences that have SHIFTED me and my “wiring” around my triggers to the word “professional.”

The first was a phenomenal life lesson that I got from Carl the painter! Last week the painters were here to paint our bedroom. But they were not the first ones to paint that bedroom….herein lies the lesson!

To explain, I need to take you back to last summer….yes, I’m going back to JULY of 2013.

If you can imagine this, Paul and I have lived in the house we are in now for around 11 years. In that time, we have had our entire home painted, some rooms have even been painted twice already.

EXCEPT….our master bedroom.

Until last summer, our master bedroom had NEVER been painted! In fact, we had one wall that was still the DRY WALL from the double sliding doors to the master bath that we had installed when we moved into the house! YES, the love and passion coaches were in an unpainted, unfinished bedroom for the last decade!

Until our dear friend and master designer Ana Roberti of Soulscape Interiors approached us about a Love and Passion Coach Master Bedroom Makeover!!! Oh HELL Yeah we are doing that!

Ana is brilliant! What I love most about Ana is that she is a masterful designer and her unique brilliance is reaching in and really understanding her client’s SOUL so she can create a design that is uniquely YOU. When Ana designs your home’s décor, you get to come home to your self! It’s magical!

Of course, painting our bedroom was a priority in Ana’s plan! I’m not sure what we were thinking, but in July of 2013 when it was time to paint, Paul and I decided to paint our bedroom ourselves! There are two words for this experience…OY VEY!

What we thought would take us two days ended up eating up 4 days of our time and we didn’t finish…and it kinda looked like crap! Life got busy and we said, “we will get back to this after XYZ.” One XYZ led to the next XYZ and needless to say, the bedroom never got “finished.”

Finally, after hiring fantastic painters to paint our son’s bedroom for his 10th birthday makeover, we asked them if they could come in and FIX/Finish what we did to our bedroom!

So, when I say “the painters came last week to paint our room,” now you see why there is more to the story.

Back to Carl, the painter!

Last week, as the guys were setting up in our room, I was packing up to go work at Starbucks for the morning and get out of their way. I said to them “Thank you so much for coming in and fixing what we screwed up! I don’t know what we were thinking, but I promise you we will never paint anything again!”

And that’s when Carl said to me “That’s why you should ALWAYS work with a PRO! I would totally stink on video and radio…that’s why I don’t try to do your job!”

Holy crap on a cracker Carl the painter! Did you just lay down an awesome life lesson about being a PRO?!

BAMM! There it is!

That moment started unraveling the wiring I had previously created around being “professional.” Being a PRO, working with a PRO…that was absolutely spot on! I teach that! I live that! And somehow, changing professional to PRO totally worked for me!

Thank you, Carl the painter, for that BREAKTHROUGH!!

Carl and Bob (the painters) are total pros and kicked ASS on our bedroom by repainting the whole thing PERFECTLY, without a stitch of painter’s tape in 4 hours flat! That’s freakin’ PRO! You rock Carl & Bob!

Lesson number two came in a hysterical moment from Kevin James when we went to see him at the Borgata in AC last weekend!!! I have to admit, this lesson hit me later on the ride home! In the moment, I was just laughing so freakin hard I don’t know if I learned a thing! But later, I got the A-ha!

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So I’m totally going to butcher this one, but I’ll give it my best shot. Be gentle with me, being a stand-up comic is not in my wheel-house.

So Kevin starts by saying that he just wants to tell us straight out that he’s NOT coming out for an encore at the end of the show. When the show is over, it’s over. I’m not coming back out and I’ll tell you why, he says. Then he tells this story…

(I’ll paraphrase what Kevin said…)

I went to see the Eagles in concert and I got so freakin’ mad. They end the show, and NO Hotel California! I’m like “what the F”? Then after 3 freakin’ encores of people clapping and screaming they finally play Hotel California. What the hell is that? You want me to cheer you into doing your job? You’re the Eagles. I pay for the ticket, you play Hotel California. I’m not going to jump up and down and scream and clap so you’ll finish your f’king job. Freakin’ do your job.

You don’t see me go to my tax accountant and he slips me my paperwork and says “here’s MOST of your taxes….I’m gonna go in the back office and if you yell loud enough….maybe I’ll come back out” So what am I gonna do…start yellin’ “Come on Irv, bring home the refund buddy, come on Irv, you got this, YEAH!” What the hell! Someone pays you to do your job, freakin do your job, be a pro and deliver! So I’m not coming back out for an encore. You paid for your ticket and I’m gonna deliver….I’m not holding my best freakin joke to see how loud you can get. I’m gonna do the job you paid me to do….

Ok, that was probably paraphrased poorly by me, but it was delivered hysterically by Kevin James!

When he started cheering on Irv, his tax accountant, I thought I was going to pee my pants! You can hear it, right? Kevin in the way that he screams stuff…oh my gosh it was hysterical.

Later on the drive home as Paul and I were re-laughing over our favorite moments it hit me…the second lesson.

Just like the Eagles, Irv and Kevin James…BE A PRO!

There it is again! And I felt the SHIFT of re-wiring my former trigger! BAMM!

Thank you Kevin James for that BREAKTHROUGH! (and really Kevin, thank you from the bottom of my heart for one of the funniest nights we’ve ever had…you were brilliant and hilarious!)

Then Paul took it home for me with the third lesson! (no surprise there)

As I said, we were re-laughing over our favorite moments on the ride home, when Paul made a brilliant observation. Most of our absolute favorite moments…the ones that had us laughing so hard we could barely stay in our chairs and the tears were rolling so much so that we needed a tissue….most of those hysterical moments happened when Kevin was improving off of something that happened in the audience! (thank you Casey the drunk guy in the 3rd row)

Some of the most hysterical riffs happened when Kevin was delivering content that was unscripted, unplanned, and happening in the moment! Kevin was creating LOADS of content on the fly and it was the best stuff of the night! That, my friends, is a PRO! It’s a man, standing up to serve and using his unique brilliance and G-d given GIFT to bring roaring laughter to 2,500 people! Total PRO!

Like Carl said, “that’s why you ONLY work with a PRO!”

Because someone else may have never asked Casey where he got his “quarter keg” tattoo….but when Kevin James asks a drunk man that question, that’s when the magic comes in….you can’t write that shit! For a PRO comic, when a drunk man in the third row tells you that he got his “quarter keg” tattoo done at his “neighbor’s house”…..the funny flood gates just opened! I’m sure Kevin was in total bliss…because he ran with that for like 20 minutes! And Paul and I were practically rolling on the floor!

So, through a combination of Carl the painter, Kevin James, and my brilliant hubby Paul, I have a completely new vocabulary word and have released a great deal of my old trigger!

That is the long version of me offering you the wisdom…..BE A PRO and ONLY WORK WITH PROs!

Thank you and goodnight!

…no encore, I’m totally done ;)

Sending love

Stacey

p.s. Our Love & Passion Coach Master Bedroom Makeover is still going on! Ana Roberti (Soulscape Interiors) is doing phenomenal work and Paul and I can’t believe the transformation!!! Maybe we should share the before and after photo with you when it’s done?? What do you think??

 

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