To Paul Martino, the greatest man on the planet… (a blog post for one)

My love. There really are no words to say what I need to say to you. The words haven’t been invented yet. This will never be enough….but it’s a beginning….

Paul, I so desperately love you, it’s crazy. There’s no other feeling as strong as my desperate love for you. Everything in my world begins and ends with you. You are my air. I need you endlessly. I truly am shameless in loving you. Whatever, whenever.

I’m in awe of you every day. You are the greatest man I have ever witnessed on the planet. No one even compares to you.

The depth of your service to me just has no description in the human language. Every need, want and desire I feel is beyond exceeded by you. Paul, you completely serve and care for me so much better than I can care for myself I didn’t know life could be like this.

Your honor, integrity, and personal responsibility create a new standard. I’ve never met any other human who walks with your presence. You inspire me and I aspire to be the woman who deserves you every day of my life.

Your playfulness, laughter, crazy-assness, humor and full-out-pee-in-your-pants hysterical funniness is one of the greatest gifts in my life! No one in the world makes me laugh as much as you! I hate to miss even one word of your jokes from laughing so hard…I wish you were on TiVo so I could rewind you!!!! The joy of life comes through you just for me.

Paul, you are the fiercest, strongest, most courageous and bravest man in the world. When I’m with you, I fear NOTHING! Until I met you, I didn’t know what no-fear felt like. All my sunshine, all my presence, all my freedom, all my peace and all my light comes through me because you protect me to the end of the world and I fear nothing with you.

Your desire for me runs through me like electricity! My energy, passion and excitement are charged up 1000 fold from the energy that you put into craving, desiring, and lusting for me endlessly! I can’t even look at you or think of you without feeling a surge throughout my entire body. There’s no greater feeling on the planet than completely surrendering to you ….over and over and over again! There are no words for this that will ever do this justice. I will just leave it as saying….there’s nothing I’d rather do than you baby!

You are ninja-ass brilliant! I’ve never met anyone whose mind works like yours! You amaze and inspire me every day! Even just the crumbs that fall off your ideas are crazy wicked brilliant!!! People think they know how “smart” you are….oh my….if they really knew! Scary brilliant!

Your faith and connection to source and all that is has been one of the greatest gifts of my life. I thought I walked with G-d every day before I met you. Since you began teaching me and guiding me, now G-d is WITHIN me always….I’m not sure there is a greater gift that a man can give his woman than to guide her to bringing G-d within her. Every day I live in Grace and it is even sweeter because it was a gift from you.

From the very beginning you have loved me flaws and all! No matter how high I soar….the falls are just as big and you are always there, with your big hands ready to catch me, guide me, and love me back up! Looking back over my life, one of the things I am most grateful for is that in my darkest moments, G-d always had you with me….not by my side…..but catching me and lifting me back up! Every fucking time! And there will be more. Many, many more! And I walk through life with the knowing that “I will find you ready!”

Sometimes I try to explain to people what it feels like to know that there is NOTHING in the world to Paul but me. No one else exists, nothing matters, nothing will ever compare to me. It’s not something that can be explained to other humans. But you know exactly what I feel because you know that nothing else in the world compares to you.

I know you don’t love your birthday baby, so I will do my very best to tell you everything every single day of the whole fucking year….you deserve so much more! Paul, thank you for loving me, thank you for who I get to be today, thank you for giving me this life.

As I said when I committed myself to you forever…I give you all that I am and all that I ever will be.

Now more than ever. I give you all that I am…everything. I am completely, totally and utterly yours Paul!

Forever is not enough….I want MORE!

All yours, Stacey


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How to DATE your spouse!

October 16, 2014

staceyandpaulatPodFirst off, are you dating?

Dating your partner is a MUST! It’s not a “nice to have” like organizing your linen closet.

We do a deep dive on this in Step Seven: S-Flirt, of our Eight Step Relationship Transformation System®.

In my experience, people don’t take their FUN seriously enough! 

I get it – you have TONS of responsibilities, you are juggling tons of balls in the air and you’ve got serious shit to get done! I get it sweetie! AND….you must also bring the fun, flirting and dating back into your relationship!


Because we have a passion-less relationship epidemic going on right now! Good, nice, caring couples living together as parents, friends, maybe even roommates, but the passion has fizzled or is gone completely!

This epidemic is a silent killer of relationships and people don’t see it coming!

Let me give you a heads up….

The difference between a “passion-less” relationship and

a “hanging by a thread” relationship is TIME!

When you lose the passion in your relationship, and you are NOT having intimacy with the only person on the planet you are supposed to be able to have sex with, you can’t even stay best friends with that person. Over time, the lack of passion creates resentment, rejection, pain and a big wound in one or both partners. And you slip from being passion-less/great parents together, to living parallel lives & going through the motions and trying not to bump into each other, to wondering why you are even together anymore because it hurts so much to think about the relationship you DON’T have!

That’s why I say that the difference between a “passion-less” relationship and a “hanging by a thread” relationship is … TIME!

What to do?

Start DATING! NOW!!!!!

In working with thousands of people around the world, many of them parents of young kids, busy with businesses or just plain BUSY….in a long term committed relationship, DATING seems to be the first thing to fly out the window!

As our six year old Gracie would say ….that’s NO-K (not ok!)

So….how do you DATE your partner?? Don’t worry, I got ya covered!

First, there’s a big difference between dating and going out! You can LEAVE the house with your partner and go out, and not be on a DATE! There’s a different energy to DATING….it’s NOT just leaving the house.


I was telling one of our clients the other day, you do not go out on a date in the same clothes that you would wear to take your kids to their soccer game or to the grocery store.

Think back to how you dressed when you were first dating…..and then dress better than that ;)


The energy on a date is playful, fun, flirty and electric! Get yourself into state before your date! Put on some fun music while getting ready, and get back to that fun, flirty and playful YOU!


Here’s the Diamond Rule of Dating: No Kids, No Biz, No House!  You cannot talk about the kids, the business or the house on your date!


“I hear you! What in the hell are we going to talk about” you ask?  Haha! I got ya covered sweetie! Go to and type in “Table Topics for Couples.”

When you are on a date, pull out one of these Table Topic cards and ask the question on the card. It will start a conversation with your partner that is about YOU and YOUR partner, a PERSONAL conversation! It’s a great way to talk about what’s REAL and get you back to having those fun, deep, exciting and interesting conversations you used to have when you were still getting to know each other!

You can look in every one of my MANY MANY purses and you will find 5 or 6 of these blue cards stuffed into the pockets! Order them now, they will be here before your date!

Your assignment….plan a date for you and your partner right now!  Schedule it, plan it, make the reservations, get the sitter, tell them to block their calendar and make it happen! Start taking your FUN way more seriously sweetie!!!!

Post below and tell me what you are planning! SO FUN!

Sending love,


p.s. need more strategies for dating? No sitter? Tough to get away without the kids? Check out our Quick Start Program where we give you more strategies for dating, free babysitters and even free date ideas! We got ya covered! You don’t have to do this alone!

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Are you living FEARLESSLY?

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Fighting over the housework?

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You MUST get out of the toilet!

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Your Greatest Power IS Your Femininity

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I didn’t like the mother I was…..

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