What are you waiting for??

August 28, 2014

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I’m SO HAPPY this morning! I’m sitting in my SUNNY YELLOW new office and I can’t believe how amazing it feels in this space!

We are fully back to work and operational in here thanks to our amazing team that helped us to take our entire office “down” and put it back “up” in just 4 days! You have NO idea how amazing Paul Martino is!! Our office used to be home to racks full of IT equipment (servers, routers, and G-d only knows what else). Years ago, at one point we had 14 servers/computers in here….and a lot of that was STILL in here.

Paul worked tirelessly for about 12 hours straight to take it all down, redesign a new IT infrastructure for our company and everything we do and put it all back together in a streamlined new configuration that takes up about ONE cube in our new cube shelving system! G-d he is SO brilliant and amazing!!!

I’ll tell you, you know I believe in working with PROS and this quick-turnaround office makeover was a great example! With only one day to shop and four days to do the actual transformation, Paul and I were STUCK on how to configure ourselves differently in this office.

There were so many things about our office that we strongly disliked, and for 12 years we’ve been working in here every day, it was not easy for us to think about this as an empty room and come up with a new space plan and furniture options! So we reached out to our dear friend and brilliant office makeover specialist, designer Catherine Avery from ResovateOfficeDesign.com.

In 24 hours, using only a Skype session to see our space, Catherine designed a new space plan and gave us a complete furniture layout and shopping plan for one trip to Ikea to get it all done!!!! Working with Catherine was such a delight! I love watching her in her unique brilliance…it’s beautiful to see her brain “see” things that I just can’t see! That’s why you work with a pro! We love Catherine’s design!!! (check her out…she does remote home office makeover services now and she charges WAY too little for her brilliance…go get yours done!)

Then our amazing concierge and treasured team member Kelly Schaefer of TaskComplete.com brought in her entire team to actually execute an office makeover in 4 days!! From cleaning out, packing up, assembling everything from Ikea (in one day), bringing everything back in and putting it all away….Kelly’s team rocked the house!!!! Thank you to Kelly, Val, Pat and Cliff!!!! Paul and I could never have done it without you all!!! AMAZING!!!

Did you read the blog I once wrote about why you always work with a PRO?!?! (read here) In that blog I talked about the lesson that Carl the painter taught me about always working with a PRO to do what needs to be done! Well, of course we brought Carl & Bob from First Place Painting in to paint our office! This was no simple painting job. But Bob & Carl knocked out the entire job in just 6 hours!!! They took us from a color I affectionately refer to as “pencil eraser pink” to a bright sunny YELLOW in just 6 hours. To think, for 12 years I sat in this space that did not do anything to lift my energy (or even match it!) and in just 6 hours Bob & Carl created a bright sunny yellow happy space for me!!!! AMAZING!!!!!

So why do I share all this with you??? Well, partially because so many peeps have asked us about our “last minute” office makeover. But of course, you know me, there’s a teaching opportunity here. In fact, it’s two-fold.

Lesson Number One, WHY WAIT???

We sat in this room working for 12 years, with just a few feet of open space to walk from desk to desk, piles and piles of stuff all the way to the ceiling, sitting back to back (yuck) and surrounded by a dingy color and blah old wood.

Now we sit in a bright, exciting, fun, sunny yellow room, with clean white trim everywhere, turquoise Ikea cube shelves with DOORS so you don’t see the clutter, bright color boxes and baskets on the shelves, a HUGE square bistro table with two leather chairs to collaborate and brain storm and our two desks, side by side, facing the openness of the room…with all the cubes and shelves behind us so we don’t even see it all day!!!! It’s SO bright, open, clear and FUN in here…..anything is possible!! WHY did we wait so long!!!!

I see people do this all the time with their homes. They wait until they need to put their home up for sale before they replace the carpet, paint, etc. Why Wait!! Do it now and enjoy it!!

Lesson Number Two: It’s NOT insurmountable! Don’t over-chunk it!

Sitting in this office for 12 years, with all that STUFF, and all that IT equipment…it felt like it would take 12 years to get out of it! But it didn’t! We cleaned out in two days!

And I thought it would be thousands of dollars to redo this office. But it didn’t!

We have a HUGE space and needed to buy absolutely everything new (we had 3 flatbed carts at Ikea full)…and we still did it all for about $1,500 at Ikea! (I think I spent $900 10 years ago on the desk I just threw out!)

And I thought I could never STOP our business to actually do this! Actually that was always my biggest block to doing this. I’ve been wanting to PAINT this office for 10 years, but to get to the walls, we would have to take “down” our business and I just couldn’t wrap my head around it! When Paul mapped it out for me, he showed me how we could do it in just 4 days over a weekend, and we would only be “down” for the weekend. Suddenly it seemed very possible! That’s why you work with a PRO!

If your space isn’t “rising up to meet you,” just DO IT! Paul and I got this makeover done (with our team) in just about 5 days! It doesn’t have to be BIG or EXPENSIVE or take a ton of time. Just do it!

So your “thing” might not be an office makeover, or a home project…maybe your “thing” is making that phone call you know you need to make, writing that article, or doing that program you know you need…my lessons for you today are “WHY WAIT” and “Don’t over chunk it”!

Once you JUST DO IT…you are going to get to enjoy it…so do it! And don’t over-chunk it…it’s keeping you stuck! Just take the first step!

Post in the comments below and tell me….what’s your “thing” that you are going to JUST DO this week??

Sending love,

Stacey

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I have a belief that I have formed over the 10 plus years of being a mother.

I believe that some people are born with the innate ability to be a magnificent parent – to effortlessly and effectively bring out the best in their kids and delight in the process.

And others (like me) are born with NO SUCH ABILITY. For us, being a parent can be a surprise to discover that this is something we are not instantly brilliant at, maybe for the first time in our lives. We are NOT born with any innate ability to be a child whisperer. It’s certainly not effortless. It feels like too much of the time we are not all that effective. And all of that is actually heart breaking….because no one told us that we wouldn’t know exactly how to do this magnificently when that baby came out!

As I’ve gotten older, my friends and acquaintances are mostly parents, and I have come to a NEW belief. When I first became a mother, I thought that most people were in the first category (innate ability), and only I was in the second category (NO such ability).

I’m now pretty freakin’ sure that MOST parents who really care about being an awesome parent fall into that second category. And the people in that first category are actually the beautiful souls that come into this world with being a child whisperer as their unique brilliance and gift in this world!

Like my sister-in-law Kerri. I’ve knows that Kerri’s unique brilliance was being a mother for our entire lives (I’ve known her since she was 9 years old) even though she actually just became a mother last year! She just came into this world with parenting as her unique brilliance! That’s what makes her a great teacher as well as an outstanding mother!

So this is what I have discovered…..you know how I always say that “magnificent relationships are CREATED, not found, so stop searching and start building because it is so worth it!”

I have discovered that it is the SAME for parenting!

Being an empowered and effective parent and enjoying the journey is something that is CREATED….you are not born with that ability….so stop judging yourself for it and start creating it – IT’S SO WORTH IT!!!!

Today, this is my experience of parenting…..

I treasure the unique brilliance in each of my children. Most of the time I effortlessly handle their every day ups and downs with ease and grace. I have a TON OF FUN with my kids! I am wildly playful with them. I have a deeply honest and real relationship with each of them. I do not treat them the same. I do not get frustrated on a daily basis….I enjoy watching their journey. I trust myself in every situation….the ones I am prepared for and the ones I am totally not prepared for! I focus on what matters, and let go of the rest. I may not always actually DO what I know works, but I do KNOW what works and when I forget, I can get right back into it!

I actually LOVE being a parent and guess what….I think I freakin’ rock at being a parent! The parent that MY kids need me to be!

Does the shit still hit the fan around here and do I still have crap?! Oh hell yes! But like in relationships, I know how to handle what comes, I trust myself that what I’m doing is the best thing for my kids and I do NOT stay STUCK in the crap for very long!

What changed for me? How did I go from feeling like a total failure and panicked that I was fucking up my kids’ entire lives to being a mother that I am wicked proud to be??

For me, I feel it comes down to FOUR keys:

  • Personal growth and development work for ME
  • A perspective shift on parenting
  • Parenting tools & strategies that really work
  • Expert guidance

I have another belief in life…Any area of your life where you have pain is an area you need to grow in! If parenting is a struggle for you (whether mildly or massively) it’s because you are supposed to GROW here!

You know I can’t sugar coat, so I’m just going to be blunt, parent to parent – it’s NOT your kid’s job to be the kid you want them to be…it’s your freakin’ job to parent them in a way that allows them to flourish into who they already are! (and it took every ounce of will power I had to say freakin’)

Since I personally believe in MODELING…finding someone who is wildly successful at what I want to do and teaching it successfully and repeatedly to many people who are getting the results I want… I sought out a solution!

I was seeking someone who was teaching tools & strategies that really worked, in a way that aligned with what Paul and I believe about creating a life by design, having personal responsibility, empowering yourself to create what you want and absolutely living from unconditional love and compassion.

Divinely guided, I found Amy McCready of Positive Parenting Solutions!

I began listening to Amy’s proven positive parenting approach methodology and applying her strategies the same day. THAT night, our household was very different. No yelling, no fighting, no repeating ….there was happy, peaceful, cooperation!

And our parenting has never been the same since!

Paul and I are so grateful to Amy there really are no words! How can you ever thank someone who empowered you to do something so life-changing as empower you to be the best parent you can possibly be for your kids and increase your quality of life by 1000 percent?!

So, we have decided to PAY IT FORWARD!

We want to share Amy with YOU! We want YOU to get the same tools & strategies that completely transformed our family and empowered us to create the positive, happy and delightful parenting experience that we have today!!!

That’s why I have invited Amy to join me in a webinar for you!!!!! You are invited to join us, totally free!!! Tuesday August 26th at 2 pm eastern time! http://bit.ly/1sxUHp3

In this content-packed webinar, Amy will share her proven tools for your most frustrating discipline dilemmas including her 5 R’s of Fair & Effective Consequences! I will also ask Amy to share with you my number one go-to strategy that I use every day….it’s a game changer!!!!!

You can experience a shift in your household that same night….just like me! I so want that for you! I want that for your kids!!!!

Space is limited, so please RSVP NOW: http://bit.ly/1sxUHp3

You are NOT failing at parenting….it’s just that no one has yet showed you the tools & strategies and step-by-step plan that actually works to be the parent your kids need YOU to be! You absolutely can raise autonomous, authentic, empowered, confident, contributing and personally responsible children! And Amy can give you her secrets to doing it easily and effectively!

Join us! RSVP: http://bit.ly/1sxUHp3

Sending love,

Stacey

p.s. Amy has since become a very dear friend to Paul and I! We absolutely adore her (and her hubby & two teenage boys) and are thrilled to share her with you! Amy is the founder of Positive Parenting Solutions and the author of If I Have to Tell You One More Time…The Revolutionary Program That Gets Your Kids to Listen Without Nagging, Reminding or Yelling. Amy is a regular parenting contributor on The TODAY Show and has also appeared on Rachael Ray, CBS This Morning, CNN, Fox & Friends, MSNBC, Steve Harvey and elsewhere.

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